Poop: Jayce has had a dry diaper during the day for a few days now. He has been able to sit on the big potty. I was a bit concerned that he would be scared of the big potty, but he defied my expectations and it didn't phase him at all. This is a relief for mama, since I don't have to clean out the kiddo potty anymore until Anya starts training. Her diapers are more solid, thankfully, and a little less dreadful to clean up. Still not my favorite task, and I get out of it whenever I can. ::shameless::
Jayce is still not talking, though he understands a lot of what is being said. He will say "wa! wa! wa!" when he wants water. But he otherwise communicates with body language, pointing, and an occasional "meh!" of frustration. He communicates very effectively though, but without words.
Anya, however, is doing quite well. I am now "Mama" instead of "Mmmmmmmah" and Philip is "Dada". She can say variations on many words: Muffin ("ma-mnn"), cat, puppy, yummy, fish ("fffffffff"), etc. A few days ago I heard Philip in the kitchen talking, and ending with a cheer, "ta-da!" and after a very high-pitched "daaaaa!" from Anya. I love hearing her practice sounds and learn. She's so alert and eager to take in what is happening around her. Her development seems really age appropriate, considering her recent changes, and we look forward to watching her progress.
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Speaking of cats, Peel and Nip seem to have accepted the kiddos as permanent fixtures in the home. While they are not pleased, the two parties have come to a mutual agreement to ignore one another. Both kids have learned to pet the kitties gently, and the cats are trying desperately to tolerate the inept affection for a few seconds at a time. I cannot ask for more.
Church today was great. It was their first "real" church service and we weren't sure how they would do in a confined space with loud people and music. Once again, they were golden. Several people came up and told us how distracted they were by our kiddos, simply because they were so cute. Better that than being an actual distraction by shrieking to wake the dead. We have done that too, but only at bedtime.
Bedtime. For a few nights Philip was sleeping upstairs with Anya, so she could cry without waking Jayce. Philip was kinda "done" with getting up with her every few hours, just to rock her for another hour trying to get her to sleep, just to have a few minutes of sleep before having to rock her again for another hour. So, instead he has been sitting by her crib, patting her back and talking to her, rather than picking her up. She fusses galore, but is learning that she can't manipulate him into not sleeping. The last few nights Philip has moved in again, and all 4 of us are in the same room. It's working much better now.
People have mostly been really great about giving the kids their space. It's been a challenge and a balancing act for us, encouraging freedom without compromising their security, and trying to be gracious to others while still drawing firm lines to protect the kids. Both kids have done really well with meeting others. We have kept most of their interaction in our home. Friends and family have stopped by, sat on the floor and played. The kids have warmed up quickly and been happy to play with their new friendly "climbing towers".
Last week, we had a group of about 5 people over. Jayce took one look at the newcomers and ran away into the bedroom and hid in a dark corner. Yeah, a little too much. People visiting in ones or twos are best. We have tried to keep our home fairly quiet, so lots of activity with people and noise is just uncomfortable in an environment that they need to feel "safe" in.
Many people that are "family" to Philip and I are still "strangers" to the kids. Jayce and Anya don't even know what family is yet! They are barely beginning to grasp who "Mama" and "Daddy" are, much less extended family, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, etc. So, again, please be considerate of the kids' space and their wishes. If I had given birth, and the kids didn't have a complex background, then things would be different. Since this is not the case, and the kids are very new to this life with us, please don't force interaction with them.
Some specific examples: Please only pick them up if they raise their arms to you. It's ok for family and friends to offer to pick them up, but don't force the issue. Please don't make them come with you without checking with Philip or me, especially if you are leading them away from us. Please only take things from them (toys, food) if they give them to you willingly. Please don't crowd them physically so they have no escape from you. In time, these things will not be an issue, Lord willing. But for now, we are in a very sticky spot, and trying to navigate precious, delicate waters.
Please do "high-fives" and "knuckles" and smiles with them. And, PLEASE ask us if you have questions. Thank you for understanding. I hope I'm not stepping on any toes, but maybe being specific can preempt some future issues.
Other "firsts" this week:
Playing in the water hose
Bath time without fussing
Tractor ride with Grand-Dad
Wow, I wrote this whole blog post in one sitting! Now I need to go wake up my small folk from their nap. Tchau!